It's amazing when your friends start speaking for you. Its amazing when you discover that they might just know you better than you know yourself. It's a scary feeling. But this is a bell curve with their confidence on the x-axis and the correctness of the truth on the y. As their confidence increases in their ability to predict your reactions, at some point in the bell curve which is after the peak they start stating things that are so not true. But their confidence is at an all time high and they vouch to know you better than you know yourself when you argue with them about the truth.
I had a friend who hated it when her friends said, "oh I know you! I know why you said that or did that." it could be that she was just hiding the truth and didnt want to accept it or it could also be that her friends had crosse the peak of the bell curve. The scary thing about this situation is tht neither you not your friends know when the peak is crossed. It gets out with time and the more time it takes to get out in the open the more risky your reputation gets with all those comments your friends have already made.
Humph!! I wish there was an easy way out.
It's heart wrenching to see your friend argue and fight with you to keep the sanctity of his statements especially when he is at the lower right corner of the bell curve. His confidence is still high and all that time that lapse between the peak and the lower corer has not been enough for him to see that he is losing ground. By then you have known of course coz ud be hating urself already if not. He struggles to be your friend by telling all these awful things about you that aren't you. Btw: they are awful not coz he is being mean but they come out to be awful coz it's not you.
On a side note, it's so good to not hate. It's such a great feeling to forgive and let go.
